What happens when a child loses

Performances are my favorite because they bring me back to my college days when I was part of the fusion dance team. The intense practices leading up to the bigger shows allowed for a lot of building – whether that is team bonding, confidence building, or just learning. 

Believe it or not, a lot of learning actually comes from losing during these big dance events. 

Initially, you might think that losing is the worst thing that can happen to a student. Being competitive myself, I always took failure and losing hard.

But the failures turn out to be the greatest lessons and expedites a student’s growth as a dancer.

So what happens when a student loses?

  1. Reflection. At our studio – the instructor watches and reviews each performance with the class. We talk about what went well, what didn’t work, what we improved on and what we need to improve on. You can’t move forward with a solution if you don’t know what the problem is. Reflection allows everyone in the class, students and instructor to identify the gaps looking back and fill it in moving forward.                                    
  2. Enhanced teamwork. Students get a chance to not just reflect on themselves, but the team as a whole. A performance with a team is ONE unit. No one is above another and to win – it requires a group effort, not a few individual star students. Students learn the importance of being a good sport                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
  3. Laser focus. Now that we know what we need to improve on, we can go all in to fix it. We focus on improving our weaknesses and maintaining our strengths. Students learn from their loss or mistakes and put in the time and energy to master their moves with a laser focus. It is a driving, motivating factor.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
  4. Confident Mindset. The students who win are the ones who believe they’re going to win. This by no means that you should be arrogant or condescending. It simply means that you need to be confident in your own talent, learned skills and abilities. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you are good enough to win.                                                                                                                                                                                                
  5. Learning to Fail.  One of the many reasons why I think dance in someone’s life is so important is because you learn to fail and you learn to fail fast. Our students average at least 5 – 6 performances a year. So within an academic year, they are performing almost every other month or so. The likelihood that all of these performances are amazing is very slim. Hence, they have to learn from their mistakes quickly, learn to move forward quickly and not waste time feeling down. This is also where an instructor steps in to help guide them with encouragement and support. 


We’re going to win some, we’re going to lose some but we are always focused on moving forward with improved skills and confidence.

Our student’s growth as a dancer and as a person is our number one priority as we give them the tools to become future leaders.